All the homophobic stuff tends to be light hearted banter, playground talk, we now have a President elect who uses similar. Nothing too bad IMO, I'm not condoning it but it does happen!
You've pulled my chain with this one.
Going back to the OP and subsequent discussion it seems that you are "condoning it" by not red carding homophobic insults, when the guidance is clear. Yes, it's playground talk to call someone a "poof". But it's also a red card mate.
You have cited the President elect as a reason why homophobic insults (and presumably racist slurs?) might be acceptable, or lighthearted.
I will tell you now - in all seriousness. I disagree on this. And I think there are millions and millions of people who believe the same. I am willing to fight for freedom of sexuality and religion. I will fight you on this here. I will fight the President elect. Happily. I won't be taking up arms to fight a phony war in Iraq or the South China Sea or whatever they come up with next. But I will fight for the rights of poofs, queens, and people of colour, whatever shade of blue that may be.
Lots of people around the UK have used the Brexit vote as a justification for normalising racist behavior. And now we are seeing people around the world using a US electoral college victory as a justification for normalising homophobic, racist and misogynist behavior. I don't think this is acceptable. In law and in football law it's not acceptable either. Of course, there seems to be some exceptions, like Erdogan's Turkey, Putin's Russia. Again, in all seriousness, I think a lot of people are willing to fight to stop their country becoming like Erdogan's Turkey or Putin's Russia. Sorry for the politics here but I think it is relevant.
(I'm glad you haven't experienced many racist incidents. I live in a country where there hasn't been much immigration and integration. The football field is one of the few places where countries with loaded history come together (Finns, Swedes, Russians, Estonians) plus migrant workers (western european, south american) and refugee background immigrants (Somalians, Kurds etc.). Incidents are still rare but we have to be aware. One thing that is actually brilliant is that refereeing here probably has a greater share of ethnic minority workers than any other industry I know
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