Reffed a cup game between two teams 9 divisions apart in my area. The lower division side put up a good performance and went 2-0 before being pegged back to 2-2 at HT. They were 4-3 down with ten minute to go when I give them a corner, a call I appreciate was marginal but I have to make a call either way and the ball looked out. The Keeper from the higher division side responds by shouting "How's that a f***ing corner?" from across the box. I'd had quite a good game up until then and both teams had been, despite the close score line, well mannered sportsmen. I decided not to show a red, in the context that he'd done it from far away and that it was a tense game and the captain immediately apologised for him. The other team then scores from said corner, 4-4, and eventually penalties.
I warned both keepers about staying on their line twice in the shootout. But when the higher teams keeper saved the third penalty he came half a foot off his line so I ordered a retake which was scored. At this point as he is walking away he says "you've had a f***ing mare today". Given his team had to score both of their next two and he had to save the next two to even get to sudden death I decided sending him off would add to any frustration and just be unnecessary grief in a game that was seconds from being over. I just told him I'd been well within my right to send him off for what he'd said and his team missed their next penalty and it's all over.
Should I have just sent him off? What would you guys, with more than two games under your belt like me, have done?
I warned both keepers about staying on their line twice in the shootout. But when the higher teams keeper saved the third penalty he came half a foot off his line so I ordered a retake which was scored. At this point as he is walking away he says "you've had a f***ing mare today". Given his team had to score both of their next two and he had to save the next two to even get to sudden death I decided sending him off would add to any frustration and just be unnecessary grief in a game that was seconds from being over. I just told him I'd been well within my right to send him off for what he'd said and his team missed their next penalty and it's all over.
Should I have just sent him off? What would you guys, with more than two games under your belt like me, have done?