For me it is the instruction to keep offside flags down that is causing problems. I totally get it if the decision is close, but they are keeping it down when the attacker is a long was off, and there was one in this game where the Cameroon striker wasn't just a long way off but she was also stood still, so a very simple call to make. For the first VAR review Ellen White was nowhere near being offside, and I can't help thinking had the assistant not flagged once the goal was scored there would have been much less reaction. It would have been checked anyway so no need for the flag.
Something is very wrong at the moment with the VAR is being used. We didn't have anywhere near this level of controversy in the men's WC, so it has to be down to one of official's skills, lack of training / familiarity, or poor advise on usage by FIFA.