Hartlepool_ref
Active Member
My game on Saturday was a u16 semi final which on the whole went really well. The only issue was a centre back who complained (at me) and shouted (at his own team mostly)... I could tell this kid had issues so I warned him and warned him again for good measure then eventually booked him for dissent.
The manager (who was actually a okay guy) said "don't book him ref he has ADHD, it'll only make him worse !". I explained to him that he had been warned many times to calm down and if you think his ADHD is going to be an issue of safety on not only his part but someone else's then he should take him off now because he's getting booked regardless. He didn't take him off, I booked him and he was surprisingly calm for the rest of the game.
After the game he casually strolled over to where I was stood watching another colleague on the other semi final. His mother asked (begged actually) him to "chill out" and come away, to which he told her to f**k off a few times. He then accused me of ruining the game, under his breath but loud enough so I could hear. I couldn't help but laugh and respond "so nothing to do with you getting beat 4-0 or the countless sitters your strikers kept missing ? No it's always someone elses fault" he walked away when all the other spectators from the other game I was watching started laughing. Craig 1-0 T*sser
Personally I think I was perfectly fair with this kid, even before I found out he had ADHD. Would anyone else have done the same ?
On a more personal note if I knew the problem I expected him to have was ADHD I wouldn't have give him so many chances as for me there is NO such thing as ADHD... The behaviour stems from lack of discipline at home. ADHD is just a cop out excuse.
The manager (who was actually a okay guy) said "don't book him ref he has ADHD, it'll only make him worse !". I explained to him that he had been warned many times to calm down and if you think his ADHD is going to be an issue of safety on not only his part but someone else's then he should take him off now because he's getting booked regardless. He didn't take him off, I booked him and he was surprisingly calm for the rest of the game.
After the game he casually strolled over to where I was stood watching another colleague on the other semi final. His mother asked (begged actually) him to "chill out" and come away, to which he told her to f**k off a few times. He then accused me of ruining the game, under his breath but loud enough so I could hear. I couldn't help but laugh and respond "so nothing to do with you getting beat 4-0 or the countless sitters your strikers kept missing ? No it's always someone elses fault" he walked away when all the other spectators from the other game I was watching started laughing. Craig 1-0 T*sser
Personally I think I was perfectly fair with this kid, even before I found out he had ADHD. Would anyone else have done the same ?
On a more personal note if I knew the problem I expected him to have was ADHD I wouldn't have give him so many chances as for me there is NO such thing as ADHD... The behaviour stems from lack of discipline at home. ADHD is just a cop out excuse.