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3 games into my refereeing career & im not convinced I’m cut out for it.
So I’ve got 3 under my belt & ive got as many negative thoughts about it so far as I have positive, I’m learning game by game situation by situation as it arises but I’m having a great difficulty transitioning from player to Ref.
I’ve got over my positioning situation & I’m finding it easier and easier to get yourself into the right positions and where to be in general play for 90mins, my two biggest issues at present are players verbal & being indecisive when contemplating giving a decision.
As far as the players are concerned I’ve had no foul and abbusive language aimed at me or anything threatening it’s just the constant chipping away at you from all angles your fighting it from 22 players & your outnumbered. My issue is it knocks your confidence to be chipped away at but also I’m finding myself getting into verbal spats with players on a regular basis which consequently means I’m not concentrating on what’s in front of me, I’m finding it very difficult to find the balance where you say nothing and come accross as weak & giving it right back to them both barrels where it looks rather odd for a ref to be ranting with a player to the point of swearing and shouting at them.
Second issue is Giving a decision without hesitating and puting the whistle near my mouth without blowing, had a fine example on Sunday a fella slid in like a pro great strong slide tackle won the ball left the other player on the deck, to anyone standing anywhere on the pitch u could have called it either way you could have interpreted it either way, I put the whistle by my lips and decided you know what that’s ok I’m playing on, well I got it in the neck from the player on the deck saying you was about to blow ref, I just said it’s not an offence for me to put the whistle near my lips without blowing just play to the whistle.
So that was one example but I’m finding myself from time to time really not knowing what to give, played the game for 20yrs but I’m standing there with an incident 5ft away from me and I’m struggling to give it one way or the other & end up playing on (have I answered my own question by playing on I obviously didn’t think it warranted a free kick) I’m finding I need a second sometimes for something to process in my head & it must look odd to the players, throw ins are the best example if the Lino doesn’t signal I’ve got to give it, if it’s a slide tackle by the touch line it can be tricky to work out who the ball touched last, I’ll pause for a split second process it in my brain and then give it, but the players want it instantly.
I’m learning a lot about myself and the game each time I ref & im taking things into each week I’m just slightly questioning is this for me or not, the thing is - if I got a phone call today to ref tonite i’d Jump at the chance so there must be some attraction to it, I want to improve and I want to get better I want to stay fit I want to earn the money I want the reward of grafting this winter & then being able to ref with a degree of ability in a fresh new season in the summer (Jesus those Sunday mornings are cold at the moment) I played at a decent standard as a youth Ryman league level I trained with the then premier league Wimbledon as a 14yr old for two weeks, I know football it’s in my blood but I’m just finding the refereeing such a bloody challenge and so frustrating when I keep making mistakes, I have so much respect for refs now & I want to achieve get promotions climb the ladder etc I even worked out how long it would take to get to say the conference level as a ref etc, Jesus I must have been in dream land because I’m a million years away from anything like that.
Anyway I enjoy the refereeing otherwise I’d quit now but at the same time I have a lot of doubts about doing it.
I’m wondering if your either a footballer in life or a ref, you can’t transition from one to another.
So I’ve got 3 under my belt & ive got as many negative thoughts about it so far as I have positive, I’m learning game by game situation by situation as it arises but I’m having a great difficulty transitioning from player to Ref.
I’ve got over my positioning situation & I’m finding it easier and easier to get yourself into the right positions and where to be in general play for 90mins, my two biggest issues at present are players verbal & being indecisive when contemplating giving a decision.
As far as the players are concerned I’ve had no foul and abbusive language aimed at me or anything threatening it’s just the constant chipping away at you from all angles your fighting it from 22 players & your outnumbered. My issue is it knocks your confidence to be chipped away at but also I’m finding myself getting into verbal spats with players on a regular basis which consequently means I’m not concentrating on what’s in front of me, I’m finding it very difficult to find the balance where you say nothing and come accross as weak & giving it right back to them both barrels where it looks rather odd for a ref to be ranting with a player to the point of swearing and shouting at them.
Second issue is Giving a decision without hesitating and puting the whistle near my mouth without blowing, had a fine example on Sunday a fella slid in like a pro great strong slide tackle won the ball left the other player on the deck, to anyone standing anywhere on the pitch u could have called it either way you could have interpreted it either way, I put the whistle by my lips and decided you know what that’s ok I’m playing on, well I got it in the neck from the player on the deck saying you was about to blow ref, I just said it’s not an offence for me to put the whistle near my lips without blowing just play to the whistle.
So that was one example but I’m finding myself from time to time really not knowing what to give, played the game for 20yrs but I’m standing there with an incident 5ft away from me and I’m struggling to give it one way or the other & end up playing on (have I answered my own question by playing on I obviously didn’t think it warranted a free kick) I’m finding I need a second sometimes for something to process in my head & it must look odd to the players, throw ins are the best example if the Lino doesn’t signal I’ve got to give it, if it’s a slide tackle by the touch line it can be tricky to work out who the ball touched last, I’ll pause for a split second process it in my brain and then give it, but the players want it instantly.
I’m learning a lot about myself and the game each time I ref & im taking things into each week I’m just slightly questioning is this for me or not, the thing is - if I got a phone call today to ref tonite i’d Jump at the chance so there must be some attraction to it, I want to improve and I want to get better I want to stay fit I want to earn the money I want the reward of grafting this winter & then being able to ref with a degree of ability in a fresh new season in the summer (Jesus those Sunday mornings are cold at the moment) I played at a decent standard as a youth Ryman league level I trained with the then premier league Wimbledon as a 14yr old for two weeks, I know football it’s in my blood but I’m just finding the refereeing such a bloody challenge and so frustrating when I keep making mistakes, I have so much respect for refs now & I want to achieve get promotions climb the ladder etc I even worked out how long it would take to get to say the conference level as a ref etc, Jesus I must have been in dream land because I’m a million years away from anything like that.
Anyway I enjoy the refereeing otherwise I’d quit now but at the same time I have a lot of doubts about doing it.
I’m wondering if your either a footballer in life or a ref, you can’t transition from one to another.
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