I had a similar incident, Player at half time reported to me that the home team in their own dressing room used the phrase lets get the 3 points and send these F**kers back home. When I told the home manager that an allegation had been made that this was said, I did not even mention it was a racist allegation and he took it as it was that, and explained how he meant and to be fair it was a plausible explanation in that he said if he was the away side he would tell his players lets get the 3 points and F**k off home. Both managers agreed that this was a misunderstanding and no racial tones. I said that as the allegation was made I had a duty to report it the FA and will report it exactly as happened and that both managers were happy with the outcome at the end. So I think all is ok and thats the issue dealt with.
At full time, the player who made the allegation comes up to me and stats ranting about how I should not have said anything and that I put words in his mouth and that he wasn't making an allegation and I should not tell the FA nothing as he didn't say anything. I politely told him that once a player tells me/reports to me an incident I have a duty of care as a referee to report these matters wether or not they are a misunderstanding or dealt with at the game. He went off in a huff.
Spoke with RDO to confirm I needed to report this in Extraordinary reports and he said yes so did this. Monday afternoon I get an angry phone call from the home manager saying he is accused of being racist as I have put a report in against him, again politely tell him I won't discuss this over the phone if he wants my version he can get the report from the FA in full. Again think its all over
Referee a county cup game 2 weeks later with the away team from the first game playing and then they have a go at me for reporting the incident and saying I made a meal out of it all and that they are now being asked for their story of what their player said but their player does not want to do.
Who'd be a referee?