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HertsFinest
Next Weeks Ref
Now this is a better shout.
The amount of times I've been stuck behind weekend drivers on match day and its taken me longer than it would on a weekday rush hour!
HertsFinest
Next Weeks Ref
Well said.
As I said in my response I haven't done any school games so apologise if this is an expectation which you've now confirmed, it is.
As I said in my response I haven't done any school games so apologise if this is an expectation which you've now confirmed, it is.
SM
The avuncular one
I guess the problem here @John J is that your actions as detailed in your original post are abhorrent to most of us on here.
You may have been unwitting in your original post as to the reaction you would receive, but the way you behaved was bizarre at best.
If I was the parent of that lad at your game I would have been unhappy with his behaviour but furious at yours. You are clearly an intelligent man, do you not see that your behaviour was bizarre, misguided and over top? You mention respect, but completely miss the irony of the impact of your own behaviour?
As a side note - most new forum users don't post power crazy, over the top, chasing youngsters around the pitch demanding hand shakes nonsense.
You may have been unwitting in your original post as to the reaction you would receive, but the way you behaved was bizarre at best.
If I was the parent of that lad at your game I would have been unhappy with his behaviour but furious at yours. You are clearly an intelligent man, do you not see that your behaviour was bizarre, misguided and over top? You mention respect, but completely miss the irony of the impact of your own behaviour?
As a side note - most new forum users don't post power crazy, over the top, chasing youngsters around the pitch demanding hand shakes nonsense.
Wow.... well that has been a very interesting read for the past 10 minutes...
As a reletively new member on here, I think I perhaps approached with a slightly milder tone, and have found the forum very informative and supportive.
To memery i believe I have only had one lad flatly refuse to shake my hand. My response was, ah it's only a game, it's finished now. He took no notice, but I guess he was annoyed I had applied the LOTG! haha I have much more to worry about in life than one lad not shacking hands.
I do find that the schoool games tend to have far more players coming over to skae hands than you get on a sat/sunday. But as others have said I will stand in the middle and if they want to shakke my hand then they are more than welcome too!
As a reletively new member on here, I think I perhaps approached with a slightly milder tone, and have found the forum very informative and supportive.
To memery i believe I have only had one lad flatly refuse to shake my hand. My response was, ah it's only a game, it's finished now. He took no notice, but I guess he was annoyed I had applied the LOTG! haha I have much more to worry about in life than one lad not shacking hands.
I do find that the schoool games tend to have far more players coming over to skae hands than you get on a sat/sunday. But as others have said I will stand in the middle and if they want to shakke my hand then they are more than welcome too!
PinnerPaul
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Yes, as above an interesting 10' read.
It DOES irritate me when managers or very few players come and shake hands.
When my son was playing (Before I qualified), I was often CAR and of course in a completely, calm and rational, unbiased way
I sometimes thought that maybe the ref wasn't up to scratch, but always shook his hand - he had turned up after all!
Seriously though, I don't think its unreasonable for all to come to shake hands - it happens at Ryman U18/21 games I do, so really don't see why it can't at park level, but as a general rule If you say there are say 30 who could shake your hand at end of game, its a good week if I get more than half a dozen each week.
Had the odd "Not shaking YOUR hand comment" from a manager, but as for insisting, agree with most above - that's a no no for me.
It DOES irritate me when managers or very few players come and shake hands.
When my son was playing (Before I qualified), I was often CAR and of course in a completely, calm and rational, unbiased way
I sometimes thought that maybe the ref wasn't up to scratch, but always shook his hand - he had turned up after all!Seriously though, I don't think its unreasonable for all to come to shake hands - it happens at Ryman U18/21 games I do, so really don't see why it can't at park level, but as a general rule If you say there are say 30 who could shake your hand at end of game, its a good week if I get more than half a dozen each week.
Had the odd "Not shaking YOUR hand comment" from a manager, but as for insisting, agree with most above - that's a no no for me.
just you Alex
You mean you've never done that Brian? Sheesh!just you Alex
They're usually in my bag in the boot Ross and my arms aren't that longYou mean you've never done that Brian? Sheesh!
Yeah I have to agree. It seems like John has made a mistake(we all do) albeit a massive one. One post you are happy he is banned next thing you don't want him banned and put a lot of fancy words in your 'e-mail' that make it sound like you know what you are talking about.
You are a referee. You referee the game. If you don't get a hand shake at the end who cares. Marching over to a child and demanding they shake your hand is pretty pathetic in all honesty. It is also not your job to e-mail the school and say don't ban the player etc. Your job is to referee the game not get involved in what is quite frankly nonsense.
I referee youth football(U13-U19) at the weekend and if I get 2-3 players shaking my hand its rare. Im more interested in them shaking the opposition players hands.
Never thought I would see a post on here where someone has took the hump cos a kid has refused to shake his hand.
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