Hi all. New ref, 4 weeks in and 11 games under the belt now. Learnt loads in that time hasn't been a disaster but certainly not the finished article by any stretch! Todays game raised some questions in my mind.
Had a mens Sunday friendly match today, gave a DFK just outside area, no complaints all round. Team given it to started arguing over who was to take it, not unusual, but this escalated to the point where 2 of them almost started scrapping. Rightly or wrongly I left them to it, players on same team had stepped in, kept them separate and tried to calm it down, manager came on and eventually subbed them both off. If they had physically attacked each other I would have given out two reds (or one) thought in hindsight could have shown yellows for unsporting but seemed resolved by managers actions? Arguing amongst a team not unusual but someone pointed out my duty to control game so I don't know (apparently deeper issues two players don't like each other etc)
Secondly there was a lad (cm) in my ear for whole game, he was bit of a 'Mr know it all' constantly gave his opinion on everything and was trying to tell me what to do to a large extent, gave fouls for and against him regardless but found the game hard work as a result, he was increasingly negative towards me in second half ie you have missed a lot ref and do you think you have earned your full fee ref etc. In changing room before game another ref was there i asked if he had had either team and he said he had had x team and he mentioned this lad was a bit gobby so clearly does it to any and every ref! In hindsight I think I was too nice with him, engaged in banter to an extent and explained my decisions when actually probably should have gone towards a warning and dissent much earlier. Finding the line between wanting to talk to players and explaining decisions and dealing with dissent seems to be my weak point at the moment. I think I also do too much talking while on the move ie I have probably only stopped the play to speak to players a handful of times so far? Any advice would be great. (Helps just unloading)
Had a mens Sunday friendly match today, gave a DFK just outside area, no complaints all round. Team given it to started arguing over who was to take it, not unusual, but this escalated to the point where 2 of them almost started scrapping. Rightly or wrongly I left them to it, players on same team had stepped in, kept them separate and tried to calm it down, manager came on and eventually subbed them both off. If they had physically attacked each other I would have given out two reds (or one) thought in hindsight could have shown yellows for unsporting but seemed resolved by managers actions? Arguing amongst a team not unusual but someone pointed out my duty to control game so I don't know (apparently deeper issues two players don't like each other etc)
Secondly there was a lad (cm) in my ear for whole game, he was bit of a 'Mr know it all' constantly gave his opinion on everything and was trying to tell me what to do to a large extent, gave fouls for and against him regardless but found the game hard work as a result, he was increasingly negative towards me in second half ie you have missed a lot ref and do you think you have earned your full fee ref etc. In changing room before game another ref was there i asked if he had had either team and he said he had had x team and he mentioned this lad was a bit gobby so clearly does it to any and every ref! In hindsight I think I was too nice with him, engaged in banter to an extent and explained my decisions when actually probably should have gone towards a warning and dissent much earlier. Finding the line between wanting to talk to players and explaining decisions and dealing with dissent seems to be my weak point at the moment. I think I also do too much talking while on the move ie I have probably only stopped the play to speak to players a handful of times so far? Any advice would be great. (Helps just unloading)
