I don't think you can have it both ways . Personally, I would simply have a strong word, reminding the player that IF it had been given as a goal then he WOULD have been cautioned. I think with both this situation and the 'DOGH' from an IFK thread, it's worth remembering that things generally work out best when we apply the minimum intervention required in a particular situation. In both cases, opposition players won't be screaming for a card and your match control will be best served by keeping your cards in your pocket. There are PLENTY of other occasions in a match where giving out cards will quite rightly be the only option available to us ... let's not add to them
I think you're selectively quoting my response to two different specific incidents
Though I do take the point about not resorting to cards unless necessary, though it would be interesting if any of the observers on here would comment about whether in the 'disallowed goal/removal of shirt' scenario how they would view a referee who didn't give a caution for that.