Morning Everyone
So I’m a newly qualified referee, have reffed about 15 games ranging from u12 to u16. Up to now I’ve not had any huge issues - usual few moans from players and managers but generally ok. Had two assessments by the County and got really good feedback with decision making scoring well.
The second of those assessments was on Sunday morning and i was buzzing at the end having had by the asssesors grading a really good game. Then came the afternoon match!
U16s boys match, two competitive teams. First half went fine and without any real incident. However the second half was a different story. I have a penalty to the away team which put them 3-2 ahead. Home team management livid (was a handball). After that I have to admit the abuse rattled me and I felt myself losing control. Players seemed to sense this. Challenges were coming in, most of which I thought were fair or blew for, but the home team managers were very vocally on my back which rapidly reflected onto the players who started behaving similarly.
Upshot is home team went 5-2 down. One of their players game me some backchat on two occasions so I warned him and went to speak to the home manager re his shouting and carrying on. Him and his assistant informed me if I didn’t protect their players they would remove them from the pitch. I was at a loss as to what he was talking about as I didn’t think I’d missed anything but he claimed one player had had to come off (subbed) due to stud marks.
Game ended. Away team managers and players shook my hand said I got the big calls right, perhaps missed a push or two. One of the home parents apologised for his sons backchat and thanked me. The home manager however contacted me post game and said he would never use me again due to player safety and loss of control.
I suppose as a new ref I post this here to see if anything similar happened to anyone in their early days or later? I feel like I should have controlled the game a bit better slowed it down but I think suggesting it was dangerous is really wide of the mark. That being said they obviously felt aggrieved and it’s made me wonder if I’m best off out of refereeing!
Perhaps I just need to accept this is part of the game and one team will generally not be happy?
Any thoughts welcome!
So I’m a newly qualified referee, have reffed about 15 games ranging from u12 to u16. Up to now I’ve not had any huge issues - usual few moans from players and managers but generally ok. Had two assessments by the County and got really good feedback with decision making scoring well.
The second of those assessments was on Sunday morning and i was buzzing at the end having had by the asssesors grading a really good game. Then came the afternoon match!
U16s boys match, two competitive teams. First half went fine and without any real incident. However the second half was a different story. I have a penalty to the away team which put them 3-2 ahead. Home team management livid (was a handball). After that I have to admit the abuse rattled me and I felt myself losing control. Players seemed to sense this. Challenges were coming in, most of which I thought were fair or blew for, but the home team managers were very vocally on my back which rapidly reflected onto the players who started behaving similarly.
Upshot is home team went 5-2 down. One of their players game me some backchat on two occasions so I warned him and went to speak to the home manager re his shouting and carrying on. Him and his assistant informed me if I didn’t protect their players they would remove them from the pitch. I was at a loss as to what he was talking about as I didn’t think I’d missed anything but he claimed one player had had to come off (subbed) due to stud marks.
Game ended. Away team managers and players shook my hand said I got the big calls right, perhaps missed a push or two. One of the home parents apologised for his sons backchat and thanked me. The home manager however contacted me post game and said he would never use me again due to player safety and loss of control.
I suppose as a new ref I post this here to see if anything similar happened to anyone in their early days or later? I feel like I should have controlled the game a bit better slowed it down but I think suggesting it was dangerous is really wide of the mark. That being said they obviously felt aggrieved and it’s made me wonder if I’m best off out of refereeing!
Perhaps I just need to accept this is part of the game and one team will generally not be happy?
Any thoughts welcome!