Evening, I’ve a question but first a little bit of context.
I first passed my referees course in 2001 a few years after leaving the Army (9 years service) and got thrown into open age, I refereed for one or two seasons and was fairly active in the local referees association. I’m now 49 years young
I stopped refereeing due to moving to a different county and also completely rupturing my Achilles’ tendon twice in the space of 4 months (the same one)
When my son expressed an interest in playing football, I then did my football coaching badges and still actively coach at u8 and u12. I am a long term development focussed coach as opposed to results and trophies coach.
I redid my referees course earlier this year as I found myself having to referee more and more matches and whilst I consider my prior experience in refereeing definitely holding me in good stead, refereeing like the game has changed a lot since 2001 or so.
I got asked to referee a match on Sunday (u14), which I agreed to as (I still need to pass my 6 matches as Im still a “trainee” referee so still consider myself as fairly inexperienced, despite prior refereeing experience)
the question (got there eventually) - whilst refereeing a parent on a number of times choose to display their disagreement in some of my throw in decisions, I gave a number of decisions that in my opinion and from my position nicked the foot of a team - I suspect that the parent didn’t see what I did and laughed sarcastically and loudly after 2 or 3 decisions.
The ball had one out of play and I asked the throw in taker to pause and walked up to the parent and offered him my cards and whistle and asked him if he wanted to referee the match, to which he didnt - I didn’t really hear from that parent for the rest of the match.
My question is - could asking the parent if he wanted to referee be considered confrontational or even potentially escalate the situation? I did explain that him showing dissent could spread to the other players on the pitch. As a coach, its a bug bear of mine when parents question or add pressure to referees and this may of been influential in how I handled the sitiuation.
I apologise for the war and peace, I’ve had a glass of wine but wanted to add context
I first passed my referees course in 2001 a few years after leaving the Army (9 years service) and got thrown into open age, I refereed for one or two seasons and was fairly active in the local referees association. I’m now 49 years young
I stopped refereeing due to moving to a different county and also completely rupturing my Achilles’ tendon twice in the space of 4 months (the same one)
When my son expressed an interest in playing football, I then did my football coaching badges and still actively coach at u8 and u12. I am a long term development focussed coach as opposed to results and trophies coach.
I redid my referees course earlier this year as I found myself having to referee more and more matches and whilst I consider my prior experience in refereeing definitely holding me in good stead, refereeing like the game has changed a lot since 2001 or so.
I got asked to referee a match on Sunday (u14), which I agreed to as (I still need to pass my 6 matches as Im still a “trainee” referee so still consider myself as fairly inexperienced, despite prior refereeing experience)
the question (got there eventually) - whilst refereeing a parent on a number of times choose to display their disagreement in some of my throw in decisions, I gave a number of decisions that in my opinion and from my position nicked the foot of a team - I suspect that the parent didn’t see what I did and laughed sarcastically and loudly after 2 or 3 decisions.
The ball had one out of play and I asked the throw in taker to pause and walked up to the parent and offered him my cards and whistle and asked him if he wanted to referee the match, to which he didnt - I didn’t really hear from that parent for the rest of the match.
My question is - could asking the parent if he wanted to referee be considered confrontational or even potentially escalate the situation? I did explain that him showing dissent could spread to the other players on the pitch. As a coach, its a bug bear of mine when parents question or add pressure to referees and this may of been influential in how I handled the sitiuation.
I apologise for the war and peace, I’ve had a glass of wine but wanted to add context