Not convinced by that argument at all. If players have decided to be a bunch of %&£!'s you've got two options - do something about it or shrink into the background and let them cause trouble. Most of the time, where you land on that scale will directly correlate with how good your "match control" will end up appearing.I think the term "match control" is rather ambiguous and often used to describe a situation where the players have just decided to be a bunch of %&£!'s but want to make it somebody else's fault. The referee has no "control" over individuals whether collectively or otherwise. You're there to watch, listen and blow your whistle accordingly. Everything else is about the other 22 people out there.
Obviously there will be rare occasions where you do everything right to try to regain control and nothing works, but I can count the number of times I've ended a match feeling like there was nothing I could have done on one hand. Far more common to look back on a match with a laundry list of things you could have done differently. It might have made no difference, but you can't just assume it wouldn't have.