ladbroke8745
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So I done my first open age game since moving north of the border this weekend just gone.
When i moved up, I thought I'd stick to youth football in order to get used to new area, and settle in basically. Done older youth mainly, with occasional younger ones.
Anyway, first open age game.
When in London, I was used to having club assistants, something I've never had up here (another reason to adjust with younger age groups as I'd have to change my style of refereeing a bit as although never relied on CARs, clearly they did help with ball in and out play and offsides more than not).
So I start off by asking captains names, introducing myself by my first name too and gave permission to use that name if they preferred, or ref is fine too. (For me, its a better way for them to talk to you as now it seems more like they're on your side rather than an opponent to you, even done this down south). I address them as such too.
I give them a short chat before coin toss which goes as following:
Guys, you don't know me and I don't know you when it comes to matchplay.
I will try and keep my cards in my pocket but if they must come out you're welcome to come and listen, but it is to listen only. I've already made my decision, you're not going to change it.
If I call you when talking with a player it's because I want you to help stop him from getting a card.
You also know you're players better than I do, so if you sense they're losing it, get to them before I do.
I'm happy to answer questions but only at full time so that there isn't any unnecessary stoppages (this is because either they will have forgotten or no longer want to discuss anything).
Then end it with, you've travelled, your call. Then flip the coin.
Literally takes no more than 20 seconds.
Game went perfectly. I get it may not always happen mind. Captains helped with their players, spoke with one and player accepted his talking to and had no further bother.
Would you not have said what I said, said it any different, maybe when introducing to the whole team maybe before coin toss stage?
When i moved up, I thought I'd stick to youth football in order to get used to new area, and settle in basically. Done older youth mainly, with occasional younger ones.
Anyway, first open age game.
When in London, I was used to having club assistants, something I've never had up here (another reason to adjust with younger age groups as I'd have to change my style of refereeing a bit as although never relied on CARs, clearly they did help with ball in and out play and offsides more than not).
So I start off by asking captains names, introducing myself by my first name too and gave permission to use that name if they preferred, or ref is fine too. (For me, its a better way for them to talk to you as now it seems more like they're on your side rather than an opponent to you, even done this down south). I address them as such too.
I give them a short chat before coin toss which goes as following:
Guys, you don't know me and I don't know you when it comes to matchplay.
I will try and keep my cards in my pocket but if they must come out you're welcome to come and listen, but it is to listen only. I've already made my decision, you're not going to change it.
If I call you when talking with a player it's because I want you to help stop him from getting a card.
You also know you're players better than I do, so if you sense they're losing it, get to them before I do.
I'm happy to answer questions but only at full time so that there isn't any unnecessary stoppages (this is because either they will have forgotten or no longer want to discuss anything).
Then end it with, you've travelled, your call. Then flip the coin.
Literally takes no more than 20 seconds.
Game went perfectly. I get it may not always happen mind. Captains helped with their players, spoke with one and player accepted his talking to and had no further bother.
Would you not have said what I said, said it any different, maybe when introducing to the whole team maybe before coin toss stage?