Chrisp72
Always smiling
Hi guys
My first game on Sunday was a little daunting to be honest I turned up the pitch markings were virtually non existent I told the home team manager of my concern he just looked at me and said are you having a laugh this isn't the premier league ! During the game on three occasions players picked the ball up thinking that it was out the both linesman rarely flagged who at times were in a better position than me to see the ball in and out of play yet both managers expected me to get the ball out of play call right every time .
There was no respect barrier , managers stood on both sides rather than managers one side parents the other like our particular league rule suggests I found myself trying to be to strict before the game kicked off so I let these things go was I right to ?
At one point I gave a direct free kick to attacking blue on the edge of the white defending team box there was a lot of pushing and shoving so I told the blue to wait for my whistle I also told the keeper to wait for the whistle so I could look along the line to observe incidents a little more just before I blew blue took the free kick so I blew and told him to take it again on my whistle he replied " for gods sake ref how "f.....ng long are you taking " I cautioned this player with a yellow then blew the whistle for him to take the free kick the kick was high and wide whilst the keeper was retrieving the ball the away team manager started laughing out loud saying to both sets of parents this ref is clueless he's booked the player then still gave him the free kick he should of then give the free kick to us then there was laughing all along the touch line I'm 40 yrs old I'm no youngster but I felt totally humiliated I just wanted to go over and explain my decision I then felt like I was wrong in my decision and that they were right ? Advise please ?
Right near the end a blue went in with high studs missing the white player by some distance I said "player watch your studs please " he replied " and you keep your mouth shut " I cautioned him for dissent with disgust from the player and his manager .
At the end of the game I stood waiting for 10 mins for the home team ref fee I had to go I had been out all day so I politely asked the manager for the fee he said I've got it in my pocket he didn't turn towards me he just carried on talking to the players he eventually 5 minutes later gave me the fee .
He then said" your not sending those bookings in are you ref" I replied " sorry I have to to which he replied ' nobody else has this season "
I gave so many warnings in the game I told one particular player to stop swearing at me about 5 times I thought in the end by being nice to him he would give up but it did not deter him at all I didn't want to be issuing cards in my first game as I don't want people to think I was a control freak.
I came away a little upset by it all even at my age I just wanted everyone to enjoy it I was very polite at all times I think they took advantage of that but I wanted to set the impression that I was a good fair referee .
My first game on Sunday was a little daunting to be honest I turned up the pitch markings were virtually non existent I told the home team manager of my concern he just looked at me and said are you having a laugh this isn't the premier league ! During the game on three occasions players picked the ball up thinking that it was out the both linesman rarely flagged who at times were in a better position than me to see the ball in and out of play yet both managers expected me to get the ball out of play call right every time .
There was no respect barrier , managers stood on both sides rather than managers one side parents the other like our particular league rule suggests I found myself trying to be to strict before the game kicked off so I let these things go was I right to ?
At one point I gave a direct free kick to attacking blue on the edge of the white defending team box there was a lot of pushing and shoving so I told the blue to wait for my whistle I also told the keeper to wait for the whistle so I could look along the line to observe incidents a little more just before I blew blue took the free kick so I blew and told him to take it again on my whistle he replied " for gods sake ref how "f.....ng long are you taking " I cautioned this player with a yellow then blew the whistle for him to take the free kick the kick was high and wide whilst the keeper was retrieving the ball the away team manager started laughing out loud saying to both sets of parents this ref is clueless he's booked the player then still gave him the free kick he should of then give the free kick to us then there was laughing all along the touch line I'm 40 yrs old I'm no youngster but I felt totally humiliated I just wanted to go over and explain my decision I then felt like I was wrong in my decision and that they were right ? Advise please ?
Right near the end a blue went in with high studs missing the white player by some distance I said "player watch your studs please " he replied " and you keep your mouth shut " I cautioned him for dissent with disgust from the player and his manager .
At the end of the game I stood waiting for 10 mins for the home team ref fee I had to go I had been out all day so I politely asked the manager for the fee he said I've got it in my pocket he didn't turn towards me he just carried on talking to the players he eventually 5 minutes later gave me the fee .
He then said" your not sending those bookings in are you ref" I replied " sorry I have to to which he replied ' nobody else has this season "
I gave so many warnings in the game I told one particular player to stop swearing at me about 5 times I thought in the end by being nice to him he would give up but it did not deter him at all I didn't want to be issuing cards in my first game as I don't want people to think I was a control freak.
I came away a little upset by it all even at my age I just wanted everyone to enjoy it I was very polite at all times I think they took advantage of that but I wanted to set the impression that I was a good fair referee .