Hello. Apologies if this has been raised previously.
Today, I encountered a horrid U10s game. Most of the players whinging from the get go. Dissenting every single decision ( even in their favour). I'm aware of the sin bin procedure and need that bit of confidence to start enforcing it. Definitely a lesson for the next game. The home manager was dissenting on occasions - I admit I made some bad basic calls and I'll hold my hand up to them. I spoke to them after the game and just said I didn't like/enjoy game and said their conduct was unacceptable. He said it was frustration more than anything.
Where do people draw the line between airing frustration and dissenting? I have a high patience level which doesn't help..
How do people manager manager/ coach abuse and what strategies would you recommend?
I've came away from the game a bit flat. Partially my ref performance but mostly the abuse. It's got to the point where I'm feeling im not as good as other managers say I am. (I.e. not listening to those who mean most). Am I being overreactive ? Or was I well within my right to debrief with the manager at end of the game? He was a bit shocked but I felt I needed to say what I needed to.
Today, I encountered a horrid U10s game. Most of the players whinging from the get go. Dissenting every single decision ( even in their favour). I'm aware of the sin bin procedure and need that bit of confidence to start enforcing it. Definitely a lesson for the next game. The home manager was dissenting on occasions - I admit I made some bad basic calls and I'll hold my hand up to them. I spoke to them after the game and just said I didn't like/enjoy game and said their conduct was unacceptable. He said it was frustration more than anything.
Where do people draw the line between airing frustration and dissenting? I have a high patience level which doesn't help..
How do people manager manager/ coach abuse and what strategies would you recommend?
I've came away from the game a bit flat. Partially my ref performance but mostly the abuse. It's got to the point where I'm feeling im not as good as other managers say I am. (I.e. not listening to those who mean most). Am I being overreactive ? Or was I well within my right to debrief with the manager at end of the game? He was a bit shocked but I felt I needed to say what I needed to.