Yampy
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In my relatively short refereeing career, I had yet to write a misconduct report until yesterday. More's the pity, it was in an U15 game.
This all coincided with a newer, tougher me who decided to be less tolerant of mouthy youths and their incessant whining and professional imitations. I approached both team managers for a CAR and was knocked back from both (not a great surprise for the home team but the away team declined to provide anyone even with the option of having both) so, I informed both managers of how I would do my best to control the middle, judge the in/outs, assess offsides, keep the game flowing and my decision, as always, was final.
The 1st half was competitive but I was pleased with the general behaviour and the lack of backchat but the constant calling for offside was grating. At half time, I called in the two team captains (both centre backs and main protagonists) to explain to them I wanted this to stop. I also repeated this to the team managers and reminded them who had declined my request for a CAR in the first place.
At this point I was enjoying this game. It was hard, competitive but fair and the players were concentrating on playing not moaning. The home team were coming back into the game having been 3-0 down at HT and the pressure was mounting so, there's was some dissent from one of the home players who questioned my fairness - I always "give them the free kicks" apparently. He was cautioned and he kept his mouth shut for the rest of the game.
The away team were defending as best they could but I awarded a free kick and one of their players kicked the ball away, he too was cautioned. Another had committed a couple of fouls and on his third challenge, I issued a stern warning that was his last. He didn't foul anyone else and remained competitive.
At the final whistle, I was very happy with my work. As I left the pitch, I heard a volley of abuse and swearing and on turning I realised I was the target of this tirade. I won't repeat the abuse but there's plenty of swearing and I was some kind of comedian. Thankfully, the home assistant manager had stepped in between us before the home goalkeeper could reach me. I felt calm and informed the player he would be reported for misconduct for the abuse and I advised him to calm down and leave before matters got worse. Sadly, he didn't and decided to take a swipe at me from behind the assistant manager. He made contact and it was only a glancing blow but contact nevertheless. I told him that would also be in my report and he's ushered away.
There's was some adrenaline pumping and I collected my bag and left before matters got worse. I can't explain it but I feel better for it. I was happy with my performance and the cautions had the desired effect during the game (the dissent and timewasting stopped and the 10 yards observed without issue) and even now I can't understand the reaction of the goalkeeper.
It is a sad situation but my I feel better for it. I don't want to be hit or abused again but now I have some idea on how I'll cope and despite it all, I learned a lot about myself which I can put to good use in the future.
This all coincided with a newer, tougher me who decided to be less tolerant of mouthy youths and their incessant whining and professional imitations. I approached both team managers for a CAR and was knocked back from both (not a great surprise for the home team but the away team declined to provide anyone even with the option of having both) so, I informed both managers of how I would do my best to control the middle, judge the in/outs, assess offsides, keep the game flowing and my decision, as always, was final.
The 1st half was competitive but I was pleased with the general behaviour and the lack of backchat but the constant calling for offside was grating. At half time, I called in the two team captains (both centre backs and main protagonists) to explain to them I wanted this to stop. I also repeated this to the team managers and reminded them who had declined my request for a CAR in the first place.
At this point I was enjoying this game. It was hard, competitive but fair and the players were concentrating on playing not moaning. The home team were coming back into the game having been 3-0 down at HT and the pressure was mounting so, there's was some dissent from one of the home players who questioned my fairness - I always "give them the free kicks" apparently. He was cautioned and he kept his mouth shut for the rest of the game.
The away team were defending as best they could but I awarded a free kick and one of their players kicked the ball away, he too was cautioned. Another had committed a couple of fouls and on his third challenge, I issued a stern warning that was his last. He didn't foul anyone else and remained competitive.
At the final whistle, I was very happy with my work. As I left the pitch, I heard a volley of abuse and swearing and on turning I realised I was the target of this tirade. I won't repeat the abuse but there's plenty of swearing and I was some kind of comedian. Thankfully, the home assistant manager had stepped in between us before the home goalkeeper could reach me. I felt calm and informed the player he would be reported for misconduct for the abuse and I advised him to calm down and leave before matters got worse. Sadly, he didn't and decided to take a swipe at me from behind the assistant manager. He made contact and it was only a glancing blow but contact nevertheless. I told him that would also be in my report and he's ushered away.
There's was some adrenaline pumping and I collected my bag and left before matters got worse. I can't explain it but I feel better for it. I was happy with my performance and the cautions had the desired effect during the game (the dissent and timewasting stopped and the 10 yards observed without issue) and even now I can't understand the reaction of the goalkeeper.
It is a sad situation but my I feel better for it. I don't want to be hit or abused again but now I have some idea on how I'll cope and despite it all, I learned a lot about myself which I can put to good use in the future.
