Red but also speak to the coach because that language doesn’t come from nature and he’s picked it up somewhere. Likely school rather than home but it needs challenging from parents and explaining why it’s wrong everywhere, not just on the pitch.Just after an opinion guys, under 10s, one player calls an opponent gay.
Would you produce a red card for insulting language or a teachable moment and a warning?
Not sure how is this any different to the player than showing him the red card. As far as he is concerned, he is taking no further part in the game for what he said due to your decision (sent off). Not criticising but serious question. Allowing a sub in is only a concession to the team not the player.It’s been a long time since I’ve refereed junior leagues, but I’m not quite sure I’d advocate giving a 9/10 year old a red card for something I’m pretty sure the player doesn’t understand fully.
Of course context is important - but most likely I think I’d go with the teachable moment, involve his coach and explain why it’s not acceptable, how it could be punished and ask them to substitute the player for the remainder of the game.
What does the term mean to that kid?It’s been a long time since I’ve refereed junior leagues, but I’m not quite sure I’d advocate giving a 9/10 year old a red card for something I’m pretty sure the player doesn’t understand fully.
Of course context is important - but most likely I think I’d go with the teachable moment, involve his coach and explain why it’s not acceptable, how it could be punished and ask them to substitute the player for the remainder of the game.
This isn't really making the point you think it is.Gay can mean lame and rubbish.
This isn't really making the point you think it is.
But it shouldn’t be used in the context of being ‘lame or rubbish’, that’s the point. It’s the suggestion that anyone who is gay is ‘rubbish or lame’.Well It is making a point. I coach kids. These kids do use on the odd occassion the term gay. It means lame and rubbish to the fourteen and fifteen year olds I coach. Its use there and its context is not homophobic.
Hence I asked what does the term mean to that kid (u10)?
Is the suggestion there at all? You are displaying a bias using an adults cynical view of a word that has differing meanings.But it shouldn’t be used in the context of being ‘lame or rubbish’, that’s the point. It’s the suggestion that anyone who is gay is ‘rubbish or lame’.
Has to be red because once we downplay or try to explain away this type of language and behavior it shows some sort of tolerance to it's use.
I'll never ever tolerate use of sexist, homophobic or racist language in any of my games.
That's homophobic not sexist.Good
so, you are straight ( sexist)
is a red
Then do your job and educate them.These kids do use on the odd occassion the term gay. It means lame and rubbish to the fourteen and fifteen year olds I coach. Its use there and its context is not homophobic.
That's homophobic not sexist.
It's incredibly unlikely someone would make that comment on the field unless they were trying to offend.
I sent someone off in an underage game yesterday for calling another player a pu**y.
Just thinking about this and wondering why we as refs look for reasons not to card a player because they are young.
A red at u18 is a red at u10. Player ignorance should not be an excise.