Had 2 games today, an U14 and an U13. There was 2 incidents across them that I wasn't completely sure how to handle.
U14 game was first. Fairly dull game and finished 10-2. I gave 2 penalties, one of which might have been soft as they were pushing against each other 50/50 and the stronger of the two won however he wasn't watching the ball therefore I awarded a penalty. Anyway, the main incident was an allegation of one player calling another "a f****** ****" and later "a stupid c***". I heard neither although I was told of the remark by 5/6 players on the team of the person the insults were aimed at. I explained to them that I hadn't heard and therefore couldn't do anything about it but told the captain to have a word with his players (which to be fair he did and had no trouble with him) and that I would be listening carefully for language. Later, after awarding the 2nd penalty the fouled player exchanged words with the fouler and said "f*** off mate". I told him to mind the language but should I have sent him off? Lots of words were being exchanged at this time and it was the first time i'd heard anything from him so i let it go. Anyway, match ends and i have a brief conversation with the teams coach who tells me they will be following it (i.e. the alleged racism) up with the county FA and they ask me to mention it in my match report. What should I say? I definitely saw the two clash heads a little so could mention that?
Second match was a more exciting 2-1 and U13. Just before half time the away striker is one on one with the keeper, keeper runs out and gets none of the ball, kicking the striker hard in the shin. I wave the coach on to see the player and get the keepers name whilst parents predict what I will do. I award a red card for DOGSO/excessive force and give the free kick just outside the area. Whilst I’ve been doing this I turn and about 5/6 parents and coaches are now on the pitch without consent. On this occasion i let it go as they were mostly clearly concerned with the injured player. Should I have tried to get them off? My CAR agreed with the decision so I chatted with them about it whilst the player was treated. One coach said the decision was ridiculous and I was being harsh. Anyway, at the end of the game the same coach informs me that he’s agreed with the opposition coach that I don’t have to send in the report. I tell them that I cannot do this and the report will be sent through (obviously coach of GK was not pleased with this). Surely, I can't do this? I won't regardless but should I mention that it was requested of me?
Then a parent who says he’s a level 5 referee tells me I can’t card an U13 because they’re learning. He agrees it was DOGSO but insists the challenge was reckless despite the keeper not going for the ball and just kicking the player.
Any advice is appreciated on the two incidents. I will also be speaking with my mentor.
On the plus side, got a good laugh out of a CB telling me in the middle of the game to shorten the half because he had cramp
U14 game was first. Fairly dull game and finished 10-2. I gave 2 penalties, one of which might have been soft as they were pushing against each other 50/50 and the stronger of the two won however he wasn't watching the ball therefore I awarded a penalty. Anyway, the main incident was an allegation of one player calling another "a f****** ****" and later "a stupid c***". I heard neither although I was told of the remark by 5/6 players on the team of the person the insults were aimed at. I explained to them that I hadn't heard and therefore couldn't do anything about it but told the captain to have a word with his players (which to be fair he did and had no trouble with him) and that I would be listening carefully for language. Later, after awarding the 2nd penalty the fouled player exchanged words with the fouler and said "f*** off mate". I told him to mind the language but should I have sent him off? Lots of words were being exchanged at this time and it was the first time i'd heard anything from him so i let it go. Anyway, match ends and i have a brief conversation with the teams coach who tells me they will be following it (i.e. the alleged racism) up with the county FA and they ask me to mention it in my match report. What should I say? I definitely saw the two clash heads a little so could mention that?
Second match was a more exciting 2-1 and U13. Just before half time the away striker is one on one with the keeper, keeper runs out and gets none of the ball, kicking the striker hard in the shin. I wave the coach on to see the player and get the keepers name whilst parents predict what I will do. I award a red card for DOGSO/excessive force and give the free kick just outside the area. Whilst I’ve been doing this I turn and about 5/6 parents and coaches are now on the pitch without consent. On this occasion i let it go as they were mostly clearly concerned with the injured player. Should I have tried to get them off? My CAR agreed with the decision so I chatted with them about it whilst the player was treated. One coach said the decision was ridiculous and I was being harsh. Anyway, at the end of the game the same coach informs me that he’s agreed with the opposition coach that I don’t have to send in the report. I tell them that I cannot do this and the report will be sent through (obviously coach of GK was not pleased with this). Surely, I can't do this? I won't regardless but should I mention that it was requested of me?
Then a parent who says he’s a level 5 referee tells me I can’t card an U13 because they’re learning. He agrees it was DOGSO but insists the challenge was reckless despite the keeper not going for the ball and just kicking the player.
Any advice is appreciated on the two incidents. I will also be speaking with my mentor.
On the plus side, got a good laugh out of a CB telling me in the middle of the game to shorten the half because he had cramp
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