What are you defining as abuse? Interested, as obviously it's subjective, but don't know any official over 100 games near me who hasn't experienced it.I've never experienced abuse
It's more what I don't define as abuse that mattersWhat are you defining as abuse? Interested, as obviously it's subjective, but don't know any official over 100 games near me who hasn't experienced it.
I've had a couple of bad momentsIt's more what I don't define as abuse that matters
Constant noise and pressure during the game.... nope.... shouting for every decision.... nope... dissent..... nope.... consternation during and after the game..... nope..... rant from a manager in the dressing room afterwards..... nope
etc.... etc....
I'd only be worried about stuff of a personal nature or occasions on which I sensed a threat to my safety. When things turn really unsavoury
I'll be 50 this year... Although age is a 'protected characteristic', I've noticed some age discrimination stuff creeping in. Mostly from spectators, but not exclusively, perhaps also participants to a lesser extent The game is fairly brutal I guess. You choose either to embrace it, the good & the bad, or you don't
In my first 10 games I experienced abuse of this kind in at least 3 of them. I suppose it depends on the area. Also, being a young official, I know exactly what you mean by age comments.I'd only be worried about stuff of a personal nature or occasions on which I sensed a threat to my safety. When things turn really unsavoury
I'll be 50 this year
Different for the two of us.... I was 42 when I took to the whistle. 6"3", best part of 16 stone.... more importantly, 20 years of playing and a lifetime of being on the terraces. Life experience etc.....In my first 10 games I experienced abuse of this kind in at least 3 of them. I suppose it depends on the area. Also, being a young official, I know exactly what you mean by age comments.
I know where you are coming from. I am very tolerant when it comes to language and comments etc. I understand the game very well, in my short time so far I'd estimate I've been to over 400 matches at pro grounds plus playing as well so I doubt it's to do with how well I 'understand' the game. They see young officials as targets because they think we won't report it. 3 teams have been kicked out of my league due to reports I have had to put in. So I think, as you rightly said, it is very much based on individual experience which is what makes football such a perplexing game.Different for the two of us.... I was 42 when I took to the whistle. 6"3", best part of 16 stone.... more importantly, 20 years of playing and a lifetime of being on the terraces. Life experience etc.....
It's a lot to ask, for young referees to have a deep rooted understanding of the game. Poacher turned Gamekeeper, I'm more likely to tolerate (even embrace) the kind of behaviour football subjects us to
OK, so it sounds like you've got a disproportionately high amount of experience in the game despite being youngI know where you are coming from. I am very tolerant when it comes to language and comments etc. I understand the game very well, in my short time so far I'd estimate I've been to over 400 matches at pro grounds plus playing as well so I doubt it's to do with how well I 'understand' the game. They see young officials as targets because they think we won't report it. 3 teams have been kicked out of my league due to reports I have had to put in. So I think, as you rightly said, it is very much based on individual experience which is what makes football such a perplexing game.
Benefits of having a season ticket from the age of 5!OK, so it sounds like you've got a disproportionately high amount of experience in the game despite being young
I honestly found that slightly funny, but it’s easily open to interpretation of being abusive - just not for me!Interesting one happened to me on my first ever Saturday afternoon (adult) game.
A player from the home side asked me where I had come from and said if he gets appointed me as the referee again he was gonna tie me to the roof of his van and drive me at 100mph back down the dual carriageway to put me back there.
It was clearly said slightly in jest and with a hint of 'this guy is a terrible ref and I'm gonna belittle him'.
I didn't feel abused, I laughed it off, but I think for many referees, especially younger ones, this would be enough to make them think twice about refereeing, if that happened in their first game.
Yep, if said aggressively in any way then it can absolutely become something different.The tone makes all the difference there - as written, it could either be hilarious or horrifying!