Claims to be a referee by manager

[Ori]

once again I feel I misjudged, but this time I should have been tougher.

U18 girls match. Midway through first half, player leaves the ground on a tackle. I booked her…..boarder line red, but I called it as I saw it. Player doesn’t complain. Understands her booking and so do her teams mates who all agree it’s a caution.

Now the manager comes to me at half time and claims he is a ref and that’s a talking to as she got the ball. I replied, if you’re a ref then you know “I got the ball” doesn’t matter. I felt it was uncontrolled and potentially endangered the opponent.

Left it.
Now second half same manager is constantly asking me to book players for literally nothing. I pointed out to him that asking for a booking is a bookable offence. I was too lenient as he continued when I was actually about to book a player for dissent. Should have booked him too, but I didn’t and I regret it now.

 

[The Ginger Ref]

once again I feel I misjudged, but this time I should have been tougher.

U18 girls match. Midway through first half, player leaves the ground on a tackle. I booked her…..boarder line red, but I called it as I saw it. Player doesn’t complain. Understands her booking and so do her teams mates who all agree it’s a caution.

Now the manager comes to me at half time and claims he is a ref and that’s a talking to as she got the ball. I replied, if you’re a ref then you know “I got the ball” doesn’t matter. I felt it was uncontrolled and potentially endangered the opponent.

Left it.
Now second half same manager is constantly asking me to book players for literally nothing. I pointed out to him that asking for a booking is a bookable offence. I was too lenient as he continued when I was actually about to book a player for dissent. Should have booked him too, but I didn’t and I regret it now.

You call it as you see it, as this “qualified ref manager” should well know.

I probably don’t need to say this, but after a quiet word, I think I’d be giving the manager the yellow card he so rightly has earnt.

I think the key thing here to remember is manager’s should not be approaching you at half time to remonstrate, that in itself is a bookable offence (possibly red card - quickly opens IFAB - it’s a red card = deliberately leaving the technical area to:
• show dissent towards, or remonstrate with, a match official).

However don’t dwell on this, it’s something that is still unordinary in grassroots football, bear in mind booking and red cards for managers m in the professional game have only appeared with regularity in the last few years (COVID seemed to be the catalyst for this).

 

[cooperd5]

Agree with Ginger, don't fret over it. Yes you should have booked him so learn and apply from now on. So that next time, you're confident in applying law

 

[one]

Yes absolutely you should have booked him if he continued after you warned him. Especially after telling him it's a bookable offence. But hay, you already know that.

When managers or players tell you I'm a referee respectfully tell them for this game you are not, I am. Don't get into a discussion with them as there is only one way that could go.