Put aside the pipe and slippers for the afternoon, did a game and during it I tried to help a player. He was already on a caution, wouldn't take advice when offered, reacted aggressively and used some choice words when asked to correct his equipment. Result, dismissed. His captain, team mates, opposition, his manager and assistant manager all told me that they thought I'd given him enough leeway, but nearly every one said "you can't help some people ... he'll learn".