Appreciate your comments, SM, and hate to think any words here might have disturbed your sleep.
Can I have a point for refraining from writing last night, thinking I wanted to support your zeds?
So...
I was a bit puzzled as to why people thought I was responding negatively. I thought, oh, maybe it's one of those things where people aren't reading my words in the same way I'm typing them. Pretty likely: I knew this girl once and the way she'd read out her ex's texts to me - all venomous and bitter and stuff - were far from how I was reading them; they seemed pretty harmless and straightforward to me. Definitely made me think about trying to be more clear in the virtual world. Or just saying things face to face, if there was a risk of misunderstanding.
Anyways, I digress: point being I looked back and realised
I'd misread something in Brian's first post - thought his questioning the veracity of the document was an accusation of doctoring (I had changed a little, but only to anonymise) - and responded/reacted to that. So I apologise for that misunderstanding, and for reading something into his comment that probably wasn't there (ie, thinking he was trying to bring me down a peg or two, because he viewed me as big-headed or something).
It's perhaps also worth pointing out that I explicitly said:
I'm just posting for information in the hope there's something useful in there for someone.
So it's kind of interesting that SM would respond by saying:
Frank you asked for an opinion. Brian has provided one.
Does that make sense? Seems like we were talking at cross purposes somewhat. If I'd asked for feedback, okay. But I didn't. So that's perhaps another reason why it felt a bit weird to get such a response.
Just for the record: I'm perfectly clear that not holding my arm aloft for IDFKs was a mistake. It's just something I haven't generally bothered doing (unless within scoring distance), as it seems a bit superfluous on a grassroots game. But it's a habit I know I need to get into, and will. I did realise it at the time, and rectified it during the game, discussed it with the assessor, and moved on, full in the knowledge that I'd better get it right next time.
Reminding me again here was, perhaps, a little bit unnecessary. I know you saw your "feedback as a gift" - but you know how it is when advice is neither asked for, nor required, nor, dare I say it, presented in the most skilful way. I know you've read your 'Men Are From Mars', Brian. It's just like that.
Anyways, hopefully that makes sense. Perhaps a bit open for a forum populated by British football referees; if so, blame it on cultural differences, and a still-developing mind. I likes a bit of communication. It's fun.
Final thing: I am interested in what a couple of you had to say about the assessment being "a cut-and-paste job" and "lazy assessing". I hadn't considered that; I just thought he was bad at using a computer. But as assessors you've the inside knowledge, and I bow to that.
PS I am very happy to score 74, and will take that all day long. Only reason I'd like more would be to take the pressure off later assessments, give a bit of breathing room in case I drop a cahone. I mean, hopefully I won't, but seeing as it happens to the boys at the very top of the game it's bound to happen to me sooner or later. Fingers crossed it's on a non-assessing day!