Had a player today call my CAR a c*nt. Was loud enough for me to hear from over 30 yards away and I sent him off for OFINABUS... I know it's right by law but my match control totally disappeared after this... What's your guys view on this??
Calling CAR a "c*nt*"
- Thread starter CallumRushton13
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I've done the same earlier in the season. For me, CAR's should be shown the same respect as us as refs... Especially because they're volunteering off their own back
Just the usual "last weeks ref never" and "if you send players off for that you'll send ten off in a game". Manage wasn't happy and players appealing for literally everything... Probably hardest senior game I've had so far... Ahh well got my first assessment (last weeks game) through tonight and got a solid 76 so pleased with that
I'm generally more lenient with other words, it's the two C words that really get me
Why do you think you lost control after making a correct decision?
Just felt the game was more difficult to manage afterwards... This was 60 minutes in and I'd had no problems before... By the end is had 3 more for C1 RT and one for dissent
Why do you think the players responded so negatively and what do you think you did (or, more likely, didn't do) to contribute to that?
Think in future I'll go very tight for the next 10 or so minutes and see if that helps. Blow for everything, slow it down, boss the game. Like to try and get the game to flow as much as possible but that just didn't work in this instance
Pull the two captains together after the sending off and tell them in basic terms that it wont be tolerated. Tell them that its up to them to manage their players, if they want to act like that then thats fine, but you will deal with them if they do. Put the responsibility on them. You concentrate on your match. If someone does carry on and deserve a caution/sending off nobody can complain, you gave them a chance to reign it in. I had a situation where i gave a throw in one way, player disagreed and then every time the ball went out of play he would sarcastically appealed for it. I told him to stop as its descent, then told his captain that i have asked him to stop. He did it again so i cautioned him. His captain ran over and had a go at him for being an idiot after i tried to stop him. Guess who got the abuse from teammates and manager?! not me.
Certainly don't let the players' reactions discourage you from doing the same in the future. The only place where you have to be careful is if a CAR tells you someone's called them that, then you can't do anything.
Totally agree - we seem to be unanimous in agreeing that @CallumRushton13 made the right decision, but what about if he called him a cheat instead? Would you send off for that?
No offense but I think that would make a situation like the one you described worse. The players are clearly not being reasonable and saying "Well, I guess we did deserve it here." My advice to you would be to call over the captain of the offending team player (don't really need the other team's captain) and together with the offending player, tell him exactly why this player is getting a red card. No need for discussion but do remind him that he will need to ensure that his team behave much better.
Good call Callum. As for managing the game after an incident like that, you just shut up shop for 10 minutes and then ease off ... if you can