Jim Barnett
New Member
So i took charge of my first game yesterday - I don't think it went particularly great.
I turned up and the pitch we were meant to be playing on was being used by another team so we were allocated an astro truth pitch. Introduced myself to the teams and there was a bit of light hearted banter floating around.
The chairman of my league sent someone down to come and meet met me which was appreciated however his voice was so loud that one of the teams would have heard him say this was my first game (indeed after half time a player from one of the teams said something along the lines of "this is your first game? we all have to start somewhere so whether this guy told one their team I don't know)
Game kicks off - no major incidents really to start off with other than not looking at my linesman enough and going against their decisions for throw ins. Home team score and around 35 minute away team has a corner where one of their players is being held and I feel was eventually thrown to the ground so I award a penalty! The home team are then saying there pushing in every game and even their players didn't appeal it. So im now starting to doubt my decision - penalty is saved.
2nd half kicks off and again I get a some direction of throw ins wrong which is getting the players annoyed. The captain of the home teams then makes a tackle from behind which whilst winning the ball I felt was excessive force. The captain then starts walking away and I hear him calling me a ****ing something but I put this down to his annoyance that id given two fouls in quick succession for what he thought were fair tackles. A player from the away team then says hes swearing at you ref you want to book him. At this point I blow my whistle and go over to speak with the captain. I said I understood he wasn't happy with my calls but he cannot be swearing at me (I did use a swear word in my chat which I apologised for) and if he keeps it up he will be booked which he accepted and gave me a pat on the arm.
around 25 minutes into the second half the away team have an attack which breaks down at which point home team break and as I turn im aware of a player on the ground - his team I saying its a head injury ref you need to blow but I allow play to continue (the home team are saying well you had the ball and didn't put it out) ball goes out for a GK and at this point when I go over player gets up and hobbles off the pitch.
We get to the 85th minute and game is 1-1. Home team have a corner and as players are lining up im aware that the AR who is away teams coach is very close to the flag and the taker and I ask him to step back. Corner is taken and the player taking then says he was tripped as he took it - as play breaks the manager for home team is screaming at me saying I need to sort this out.
Home team then play a ball over the top - first player isn't flagged for offside and his shot is saved by GK but ball breaks for second player who was offside at first phase who scores. At this point the AR has his flag up but I have already awarded a goal and the away team are telling me to go and speak with the AR. I advise from my position I could not see any offside and I am allowed to overrule the AR. We have about 90 seconds to go and the game is at boliling point with a few high challenges. At this point I call time as I was worried that the game was about to kick off. home team players shake my hand but none of the away team do - an away player keeps going back to the offside call and keeps questioning it
As im walking over to my bag an member of the away teams staff then says he has two minutes to go on his watch and I advise I have 45 on mine. I give myself 5 minutes away from everybody at which point the player who was hassling me after the game comes over and apologises to me (he hadn't actually spoken out of turn or swore at me) but I said I appreciate the gesture and I could understand his frustration
I have to be honest as I drove away I felt like crying - I can still hear the shouts and calls at me. I just felt like the wrong directions for throw ins and what not are basic things and if I cant even get those right whats the point and im already wondering if this is for me and do I have a skin thick enough
I turned up and the pitch we were meant to be playing on was being used by another team so we were allocated an astro truth pitch. Introduced myself to the teams and there was a bit of light hearted banter floating around.
The chairman of my league sent someone down to come and meet met me which was appreciated however his voice was so loud that one of the teams would have heard him say this was my first game (indeed after half time a player from one of the teams said something along the lines of "this is your first game? we all have to start somewhere so whether this guy told one their team I don't know)
Game kicks off - no major incidents really to start off with other than not looking at my linesman enough and going against their decisions for throw ins. Home team score and around 35 minute away team has a corner where one of their players is being held and I feel was eventually thrown to the ground so I award a penalty! The home team are then saying there pushing in every game and even their players didn't appeal it. So im now starting to doubt my decision - penalty is saved.
2nd half kicks off and again I get a some direction of throw ins wrong which is getting the players annoyed. The captain of the home teams then makes a tackle from behind which whilst winning the ball I felt was excessive force. The captain then starts walking away and I hear him calling me a ****ing something but I put this down to his annoyance that id given two fouls in quick succession for what he thought were fair tackles. A player from the away team then says hes swearing at you ref you want to book him. At this point I blow my whistle and go over to speak with the captain. I said I understood he wasn't happy with my calls but he cannot be swearing at me (I did use a swear word in my chat which I apologised for) and if he keeps it up he will be booked which he accepted and gave me a pat on the arm.
around 25 minutes into the second half the away team have an attack which breaks down at which point home team break and as I turn im aware of a player on the ground - his team I saying its a head injury ref you need to blow but I allow play to continue (the home team are saying well you had the ball and didn't put it out) ball goes out for a GK and at this point when I go over player gets up and hobbles off the pitch.
We get to the 85th minute and game is 1-1. Home team have a corner and as players are lining up im aware that the AR who is away teams coach is very close to the flag and the taker and I ask him to step back. Corner is taken and the player taking then says he was tripped as he took it - as play breaks the manager for home team is screaming at me saying I need to sort this out.
Home team then play a ball over the top - first player isn't flagged for offside and his shot is saved by GK but ball breaks for second player who was offside at first phase who scores. At this point the AR has his flag up but I have already awarded a goal and the away team are telling me to go and speak with the AR. I advise from my position I could not see any offside and I am allowed to overrule the AR. We have about 90 seconds to go and the game is at boliling point with a few high challenges. At this point I call time as I was worried that the game was about to kick off. home team players shake my hand but none of the away team do - an away player keeps going back to the offside call and keeps questioning it
As im walking over to my bag an member of the away teams staff then says he has two minutes to go on his watch and I advise I have 45 on mine. I give myself 5 minutes away from everybody at which point the player who was hassling me after the game comes over and apologises to me (he hadn't actually spoken out of turn or swore at me) but I said I appreciate the gesture and I could understand his frustration
I have to be honest as I drove away I felt like crying - I can still hear the shouts and calls at me. I just felt like the wrong directions for throw ins and what not are basic things and if I cant even get those right whats the point and im already wondering if this is for me and do I have a skin thick enough