Hi I think this is a great topic esspecialy for low levels and young refs. I really dont want to give any cautions because of fees and everything and kinda tolerate little abouse against me because of this reason there are lot examples I could give caution but choose not to how to get rid of this feeling
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Giving your first caution or red card can certainly be nerve racking. I understand where you’re coming from, but ultimately the clubs are playing with a qualified referee in a registered match. They know the risks of being cautioned/sent off and what that can mean.
At the end of the day, players aren’t your mates. They’re paying you to do a job, so do it.
At the end of the day, players aren’t your mates. They’re paying you to do a job, so do it.
The players and clubs sign up to play under the laws of the game, and any competition rules that mandate fines. If they don’t want to pay fines they are welcome to have an unaffiliated kick about without cards and refs.
I get it though, but once you get a few cards under your belt you’ll forget about feeling bad.
I get it though, but once you get a few cards under your belt you’ll forget about feeling bad.
The other way to looks at it, is like this.
I'm playing in a game. My opponent commits a caution offence and the referee doesn't take action.
The same player then commits another caution offence and if the referee does or doesn't deal I should now be playing against 10 men, not 11.
In the interests if fair play to both teams dealing with sanctions is part and parcel of that. Doing one team a favour by not issuing sanctions actually does the opponents a disservice.
I'm playing in a game. My opponent commits a caution offence and the referee doesn't take action.
The same player then commits another caution offence and if the referee does or doesn't deal I should now be playing against 10 men, not 11.
In the interests if fair play to both teams dealing with sanctions is part and parcel of that. Doing one team a favour by not issuing sanctions actually does the opponents a disservice.
MarcusSFARef
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I had this same issue as you @cancan mate. Just a few months ago I was doubting myself and had a lot of nerves about worrying what players and coaches would think of me. I even started a post just like this one about a red card situation where I was scared/not sure what could happen.
Build up the courage to give your first caution, then you’ll have the ability to hand them out like crazy!
In all seriousness, follow what has been said above. These teams choose to play FA licensed football, so they should be expecting reckless challenges
with that comes cautions.
As with “abuse”, any dissent towards you or your assistants warrants a sin-bin (yellow card under C2 code with 8min/10 min time from playing). As @Archer said, anything you don’t enforce makes next week’s refs job harder
Build up the courage to give your first caution, then you’ll have the ability to hand them out like crazy!
In all seriousness, follow what has been said above. These teams choose to play FA licensed football, so they should be expecting reckless challenges
with that comes cautions.As with “abuse”, any dissent towards you or your assistants warrants a sin-bin (yellow card under C2 code with 8min/10 min time from playing). As @Archer said, anything you don’t enforce makes next week’s refs job harder
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I am just new myself but you will eventually get an instinctive feeling when a sanction is due. You are finding your tolerances, but your tolerance does not override the LOTG and when you should show a card. As someone else said, you are not there to be friends but you are there to be fair and as far as abuse goes it is a a simple lack of respect. If you have respect for yourself then you should put up with very little abuse. At the end you won't be thanked for anything and players will go all out to avoid shaking your hands as though that is a victory over you. Like it or not you are seen as competition and opposition just wearing a different colour top.
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I think it helps to stop thinking that you are “giving” a caution. What you are doing is recognizing that a player chose to do something that deserves a caution. Accept his choice.
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@cancan, I concur with a some of the posts here that the only solution to your 'feel' problem is you choosing to be 'ruthless' for a little while and giving those cautions against how you feel but what you know is right. After a dozen or so, your feel and your know will align nicely.
And then comes the next stage when you realize some of the cautions you are giving should actually be red cards but you downgrade them because of the same feel. The remedy is the same.
On a side note, the feel you refer to is empathy. It is a very good referring trait to have so don't loose it entirely. Key is finding the right balance.
And then comes the next stage when you realize some of the cautions you are giving should actually be red cards but you downgrade them because of the same feel. The remedy is the same.
On a side note, the feel you refer to is empathy. It is a very good referring trait to have so don't loose it entirely. Key is finding the right balance.
