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Hi all, a very rare one yesterday.

U12 match, last minute, blue team 9-2 down. game is dead. In the first half I gave a rather soft penalty to the blues which they scored. Similar foul happens on a red player so I feel I need to give that one too. Pen is taken and saved, ball out for a corner. As we're getting ready for the corner, blue number 4 comes and asks if they've payed me. straight out dissent. YC sin bin. When asking for his last name all his teammates around him started laughing which indicates a false name. His coach walks on to ask whats going on, I explain and he begins taking the player off.

Player then turns around with his manager right next to him, begins running to me shouting "your f**king s**t ref" while giving me the 2 fingers. Before I can pull the red card out he begins punching me full force. Didn't hurt me but was quite shocking. Manager and other players pull him away, and he walks off. Suppose he did that because he knew how late we were in the game he wouldnt get back on. Other blue manager didn't seem to do much either, which is slightly worrying. The coach who pulled the player off was completely cooperative though, and apologised to me for his player's actions and so did the reds manager, players and parents. The league and FA have seemed to been good with it so far.

Just want to know your thoughts on this
Cheers
 
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Wow. Easy to dismiss this as he's a very young child, but there's a fair chance that someone who does this as a young child will do it again when they're not such a young child. Kid possibly has situations going on outside of football causing him to react like that, but it doesn't excuse it.
Needs a lengthy ban from playing to make him realise how unacceptable it is, but also needs a little bit of support I would think, as that's not normal 12 year old behaviour.
 
I wonder if this was the first time? They don't go from zero to 100 in one game at that age. Did his team officials see this coming? Though my boys are adults now, I had been involved in managing/coaching their teams when they were early teens. At that age (or any age), it's not just about teaching them how to play football.
 
Christ alive. Hope you’re alright, and hope the kid gets the support he needs too. Don’t want to speculate but does appear other things are going on there.
 
Hope you are OK. Might have been traumatic for you so do talk to someone you trust.

Bribery/corruption/cheating allegations quite right to at least yellow.

Think also about your body language, use of the whistle etc. in situations that can become confrontational.
 
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I wonder if this was the first time? They don't go from zero to 100 in one game at that age. Did his team officials see this coming? Though my boys are adults now, I had been involved in managing/coaching their teams when they were early teens. At that age (or any age), it's not just about teaching them how to play football.
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I never saw it coming. Had the team a few times before and they're not horrible but they're also not the nicest bunch. Team officials didn't seem to see it coming either
 
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I never saw it coming. Had the team a few times before and they're not horrible but they're also not the nicest bunch. Team officials didn't seem to see it coming either
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Hope you are okay. Stating the obvious but that has zero place at any age group ever.

Make your report and be accurate.

As @RefereeX says. It is not uncommon for U18s to referee these games. So he could punch a 14y/o next time if you don't report it. Which I fully expect would stop most 14y/o from ever officiating again.

Everything will then be left for the FA to sort.
 
Sorry to hear this. Unfortunately society is broken, hence why we had 12 year olds arrested for rioting a couple of months ago, but we collectively need to do all we can to keep them away from football pitches, no matter how young or old. Hopefully some action is taken if you report it as assault, which it clearly was.
 
I see this is old. But in all seriousness here. Coaching that lad week in week out would have shown at least some signs he was having a few issues.

As a coach myself. I know the ins and outs of every one of my squad. Can spend ten mins with them and notice something wrong.

Transparency is key. Keeping up to date with post match analysis from the parents and asking how the bairn found the game/training. Yeah this takes an extra 15 min to individually message 13 parents. But it gives you great insight to how kids are and how they feel.
 
ramref said:
Hi all, a very rare one yesterday.

U12 match, last minute, blue team 9-2 down. game is dead. In the first half I gave a rather soft penalty to the blues which they scored. Similar foul happens on a red player so I feel I need to give that one too. Pen is taken and saved, ball out for a corner. As we're getting ready for the corner, blue number 4 comes and asks if they've payed me. straight out dissent. YC sin bin. When asking for his last name all his teammates around him started laughing which indicates a false name. His coach walks on to ask whats going on, I explain and he begins taking the player off.

Player then turns around with his manager right next to him, begins running to me shouting "your f**king s**t ref" while giving me the 2 fingers. Before I can pull the red card out he begins punching me full force. Didn't hurt me but was quite shocking. Manager and other players pull him away, and he walks off. Suppose he did that because he knew how late we were in the game he wouldnt get back on. Other blue manager didn't seem to do much either, which is slightly worrying. The coach who pulled the player off was completely cooperative though, and apologised to me for his player's actions and so did the reds manager, players and parents. The league and FA have seemed to been good with it so far.

Just want to know your thoughts on this
Cheers
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For me the comment about being paid would have led to a red card.

I hope this is dealt with severely as 12 year olds cannot assault refs.

Your next game will be nothing like this i hope.
 
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