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Just thought I’d share my latest instalment of Sunday morning psychological torture
Ref’d my fourth game on Sunday & it was a joy still a lot to work on but came away pretty pleased with my performance, now I know my pre match ritual now I’m walking and talking actually knowing what I’m doing pre match things are a million times better, I won’t go into the match itself to much but no real talking points or controversy, an attacking throw in turned into his own net by the keeper being the only flash point, I gave the goal it was clear as day, the defence went ape sh*t saying the keeper was already over the line & in the goal I was having none of it and stood by my decision, after the game two of them came over and said I got it right they were trying there luck so I was pleased with that.
So yeah compared to the week before it was a dream, obviously still loads to work on but it was a lot easier to ref this game & my best performance by far when chatting after the game some of the fellas couldn’t believe it was only my fourth match incharge.
So anyway just a few points I’d like to raise:
What to say to players in different situations, so basically there is no script on what to say to players through out the game weather it be a badish foul that your warning a player about or a bit of discent etc, off the pitch I’m quick witted and I’ve got decent banter, come to talking to players I’m struggling to get a clear message accross, it’s kinda hard when they’re animated or in denial & your trying to justify your decision & stand firm, I always come off the pitch thinking damn I should have said that or I should have said this.
Second point is being picky or to put it differently Being exact, making people take the free kick again, rolling ball, making players leave the field when injured, just generally Implementing the rules and not letting all the little things go, prime example Sunday awarded free kick they take it quickly from about five yards further forward to where I blew and Called it back, I got groans & thought to myself am I being to strict with that, it was on half way line.
Shaking hands with captains do you do it before toss or after ends have been chosen or both, also chat with captains in centre circle before kick off do you say anything? at present I don’t I just do ends & say good luck.
And my biggest thing is still doubting myself when i give a decision that doesn’t go down well with the aggrieved, every bloody time I look at there reaction and there team mates reaction and I feel like I’ve got it wrong, you just can’t teach someone a new ref how to deal with player reactions, I watched two games tonight and it was interesting to watch refs at the top level even still looking uncomfortable when having to withstand player rants and theatrical appeals, it’s a position that in everyday life you don’t find yourself in, but in the middle with the whistle you have be so diplomatic and strong it’s such a balancing act.
Anyway gonna be much more for me to ask as I go along, but sunday was the confidence booster I needed im looking forward to this Sunday & might even give saturdays a go if I can deal with the cold, by god I’m looking forward to the summer the freezing mornings are a joke they really are.
So I think I’m on the right track, just wish I didn’t have this niggling feeling that my next clanger or ground open up and swallow me whole moment is only around the corner
Just thought I’d share my latest instalment of Sunday morning psychological torture
Ref’d my fourth game on Sunday & it was a joy still a lot to work on but came away pretty pleased with my performance, now I know my pre match ritual now I’m walking and talking actually knowing what I’m doing pre match things are a million times better, I won’t go into the match itself to much but no real talking points or controversy, an attacking throw in turned into his own net by the keeper being the only flash point, I gave the goal it was clear as day, the defence went ape sh*t saying the keeper was already over the line & in the goal I was having none of it and stood by my decision, after the game two of them came over and said I got it right they were trying there luck so I was pleased with that.
So yeah compared to the week before it was a dream, obviously still loads to work on but it was a lot easier to ref this game & my best performance by far when chatting after the game some of the fellas couldn’t believe it was only my fourth match incharge.
So anyway just a few points I’d like to raise:
What to say to players in different situations, so basically there is no script on what to say to players through out the game weather it be a badish foul that your warning a player about or a bit of discent etc, off the pitch I’m quick witted and I’ve got decent banter, come to talking to players I’m struggling to get a clear message accross, it’s kinda hard when they’re animated or in denial & your trying to justify your decision & stand firm, I always come off the pitch thinking damn I should have said that or I should have said this.
Second point is being picky or to put it differently Being exact, making people take the free kick again, rolling ball, making players leave the field when injured, just generally Implementing the rules and not letting all the little things go, prime example Sunday awarded free kick they take it quickly from about five yards further forward to where I blew and Called it back, I got groans & thought to myself am I being to strict with that, it was on half way line.
Shaking hands with captains do you do it before toss or after ends have been chosen or both, also chat with captains in centre circle before kick off do you say anything? at present I don’t I just do ends & say good luck.
And my biggest thing is still doubting myself when i give a decision that doesn’t go down well with the aggrieved, every bloody time I look at there reaction and there team mates reaction and I feel like I’ve got it wrong, you just can’t teach someone a new ref how to deal with player reactions, I watched two games tonight and it was interesting to watch refs at the top level even still looking uncomfortable when having to withstand player rants and theatrical appeals, it’s a position that in everyday life you don’t find yourself in, but in the middle with the whistle you have be so diplomatic and strong it’s such a balancing act.
Anyway gonna be much more for me to ask as I go along, but sunday was the confidence booster I needed im looking forward to this Sunday & might even give saturdays a go if I can deal with the cold, by god I’m looking forward to the summer the freezing mornings are a joke they really are.
So I think I’m on the right track, just wish I didn’t have this niggling feeling that my next clanger or ground open up and swallow me whole moment is only around the corner