I hear what you are saying
@Padfoot and I wish, like MOTD, I could now rewatch the incident several times over to establish exactly what happened. Whether or not I was right or not in respect of the LOTG (and, I think, based
on what I saw, I was) I did the right thing in terms of the game today.
Bottom tier of local OA league and in 12 games each so far this season, home side had won 1, away side 2. On a wet December afternoon, this was never going to be el-Classico.
I'll hold my hands up, on reflection I should have booked yellow 10 on 20 mins for a bad tackle - he was done by the pace and skill of a youngster, bringing him down as he turned and beat him: to be fair, probably due more to incompetence than malice, but worthy of a card. Shrill blow of the whistle. Call him over, he takes his time as he's apologising to the fouled player, apologises to me etc., everything's calmed down as I speak to him and he escapes his card. I hold my hands up, I got this wrong. I didn't bottle it, but a wily old "pro" has worked me. Learning pooint noted.
10 mins later same yellow 10 (age 30+) and red 7 (barely out of his teens, if at all) are contesting a 50/50 ball on the ground. Bit physical, neither really gaining control of ball, both probably committing a foul, but hard to call who to penalise. Ball squirts away from them into empty space, should be the end of it, but out of my perpiphal vision I notice them still tangling with each other. Both start shouting/swearing at each other ...
BIG blow of the whistle. I go over to the side of the pitch (backwards, keeping "eyes on") and call them both over. Notice circa 4 other yellows also heading my way. "Erhm, could get interesting" I think. "Away you go the rest of you, yellow 10 and red 8 please. And I'll have the skippers as well" Pause. Im happy for everything to calm down, I'm in no rush. Speak to them all. Explain how we'lI restart (free kick red, was in their half.) issue cards. Take my time filling in my book, amble over to ball to restart.
Tempers remained high for a few minutes, but I worked hard to calm it all down, lots of preemptive warnings, slowed it all down, praised yellow 6 and red 5 for good sportsmanship after they accidentally collided (muddy pitch), helped each other up and shook hands. Was pleased to note a couple of experience old heads on red calming their 7 down, shuffling him round the pitch to mark someone different from yellow 10.
Game continued as a well contested affair, with yellows ending up winning 4-3, with all happy at the end, everyone having enjoyed an afternoon on the football pitch rather than fighting the masses Christmas shopping. A really good game for me to have to referee today - I had to work hard on my game management, but think I did well and I learnt a lot.