I know the “you can’t please everyone” line has been drilled into me for two seasons now but I still found myself doubting my decisions and ability if one team was particularly miffed at the end.
Finally got over that midweek with a local derby/top of the table clash, finished 2-2 with one yellow for dissent. Captain of the away team, which was happy with a draw because it kept them above the home team, shakes my hand and said “cheers ref but some of your decisions were ****e”.
I knew she mostly meant the yellow card since there hadn’t really been any KMIs, maybe a couple of missed advantages? But I’d also done very well to spot a non-penalty against them so felt they should’ve been feeling like they got a balanced display.
Got back to the changing room with a feeling of “**** it, if that game doesn’t please the team that got a result and at worst a sin bin that had no impact, then their opinion can be disregarded.”
I still take on board the feedback, because I’m not above mistakes, but thought any relatively new refs might relate to this feeling and might benefit from knowing at some point you get past it.
Finally got over that midweek with a local derby/top of the table clash, finished 2-2 with one yellow for dissent. Captain of the away team, which was happy with a draw because it kept them above the home team, shakes my hand and said “cheers ref but some of your decisions were ****e”.
I knew she mostly meant the yellow card since there hadn’t really been any KMIs, maybe a couple of missed advantages? But I’d also done very well to spot a non-penalty against them so felt they should’ve been feeling like they got a balanced display.
Got back to the changing room with a feeling of “**** it, if that game doesn’t please the team that got a result and at worst a sin bin that had no impact, then their opinion can be disregarded.”
I still take on board the feedback, because I’m not above mistakes, but thought any relatively new refs might relate to this feeling and might benefit from knowing at some point you get past it.