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a parent posting about me on facebook

JoeMaloney5

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so basically today in my game i gave a yellow card to a 10 year old who did a horrible takle on a kid who was through on goal and had to be stretchered off it shouldve been red but given his age i opted for yellow (the first ever card ive issued as a ref) and when i get home i get notified that one of the parents of that team who got the yellow (but won 2 0) is posting about my ability as a ref ive attached screen shot

is there any rule on this?
 

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Honestly I don’t know, but for what is in the screenshot I personally would ignore it.

Of course, if they start posting your name or being abusive etc then that would change.

If in doubt drop your RDO a line for some advice.
 
Honestly I don’t know, but for what is in the screenshot I personally would ignore it.

Of course, if they start posting your name or being abusive etc then that would change.

If in doubt drop your RDO a line for some advice.
cheers yeah i suppose not that bad just abit down heartening
 
cheers yeah i suppose not that bad just abit down heartening

True, but the post wasn’t especially abusive or insulting, other than bringing your performance in this match into question.

Of course, that’s only my view.

Personally I have nothing to do with any of the teams I referee on social media, so I avoid this type of thing.
 
Yes there is, serious foul play is always a cherry. Don't sweat the Facebook thing but as has been said let your refsec, development officer and the league know.
 
I would ignore it personally, it isn't personal (doesn't name you), isn't abusive, and is really just one person's opinion. It doesn't even name the teams, so there is nothing that your CFA or league could do about it.
 
Ignore the post as you can imagine that comment happens to every ref for almost every game Just not posted - the public post doesn't name you, league, or teams. Don't let it effect you. We get those comments even when we have done well.

but unrelated it sounds like a good opportunity to think about your card decision. Sounds like there are two reasons it could of / should of been a red card - "horrible tackle" and "through on goal". Was the tackle out of control, using excessive force? Yes = serious foul play/ red. Was the "through on goal" an obvious goal scoring opportunity outside the box? Yes = dogso /red. Think about whether you went yellow because it was your first card rather than what is required by the laws of the game.

Good luck and keep going.
 
With out seeing the tackle I think you probably made a good call. All players will remember that card for a long time and the culprit will think twice hopefully before doing the same sort of challenge. Hopefully the coach will speak to the player. as for the post they are using the same protocols as us no identifying so I wouldn't worry about it. I would be more worried about the opening of the Pandoras box of whether kids should be cautioned!:):rage:
 
Email the screenshot to your County Discipline Officer.......

Who can do what with it? A person says that an unnamed referee has a bad game taking charge or two unnamed teams, what can they do with that? It would just be a waste of everyone's time.

No different to any of us criticising a referee on this or other forums, arguably we are worse as the referee is named.
 
First of all, keep your head up and don't let petty things like that effect you! You clearly made the right decision, he made the incorrect by putting it up.

It's up to you if you wanted to send it to your RDO for some advice, but its only like saying the same thing from the sideline which you wouldn't even bother reporting so doubt they'd be to interested, especially with no teams/names being mentioned.
 
JB needs to give his head a shake..... Never been one for reporting FB stuff so i'd keep it upstairs!
You never know when you may need to pull this anger out of the memory banks!!!
Every dog has its day!!!
 
Who can do what with it? A person says that an unnamed referee has a bad game taking charge or two unnamed teams, what can they do with that? It would just be a waste of everyone's time.

No different to any of us criticising a referee on this or other forums, arguably we are worse as the referee is named.

I'm sure with a minimal amount of work they could identify which team the parent was associated with.....and require the club to educate said parent.

That sort of "why bother" attitude is why referee abuse is on the increase once again.
 
I've had quite a bit posted about me on a particular league website, sticks and stones and all that. I personally stood up to it, I posted excerpts of the Law and gave many carefully worded responses, I was like Bovril to some of them, some hated it, some loved it that a ref had the balls to have a pop back. They certainly weren't used to it, no-one ever got reported (to my knowledge), messages were removed, (not by me) but most of the time it was harmless fun.. It was supposed to be a church run league but most weren't in any way religious.
Sometimes you have to grow a pair, suck it up, it goes with the territory I guess, and if you have any aspirations to climb the ladder then it will definitely increase.
 
The 'ignorance is bliss' sentiment has an element of truth to it, but it would be nice to see such people, if not reprimanded just for having an opinion, at least educated.
I once saw a description of my performance on a team website hinting that my late penalty decision had decided the match unfairly. There is something about seeing one's competence/impartiality (and the distinction is important) in permanent written form that inflames one's sensitivities. I contacted my RDO, and to his and the club's credit the reference to my performance was subsequently removed. Little practical consequence (how many visitors does that site attract on a daily basis?), but it's a point of principle. Having said that, you are probably better off avoiding these ignorant statements in the first place.
 
I'm sure with a minimal amount of work they could identify which team the parent was associated with.....and require the club to educate said parent.

That sort of "why bother" attitude is why referee abuse is on the increase once again.

I would agree with you if the post was in any way abusive, but it isn't. It just says that a referee had a bad game, that is an opinion that anyone is entitled to, and there are no rules against posting said opinion on social media..
 
If you see something posted online that you find offensive, insulting or abusive (whether it be about you or someone else), email a screenshot to your county's discipline department (not your RDO, not your referee appointment officer, and not your league, because there's nothing that any of them can do about it). That being said, personally if I saw that comment posted about my performance I wouldn't find it offensive, insulting or abusive.

In any case, unless said parent is an active participant in football, there's nothing that can be done in terms of discipline.
 
I would agree with you if the post was in any way abusive, but it isn't. It just says that a referee had a bad game, that is an opinion that anyone is entitled to, and there are no rules against posting said opinion on social media..

Which is why I said "educate" instead of "discipline". Regardless of opinion, parents need to understand the negative reinforcement such messages convey to their offspring, and as such should be "educated" to be more responsible when making such pronouncements.

If you see something posted online that you find offensive, insulting or abusive (whether it be about you or someone else), email a screenshot to your county's discipline department (not your RDO, not your referee appointment officer, and not your league, because there's nothing that any of them can do about it). That being said, personally if I saw that comment posted about my performance I wouldn't find it offensive, insulting or abusive.

In any case, unless said parent is an active participant in football, there's nothing that can be done in terms of discipline.

Not quite accurate in your last sentence......the club can take "disciplinary" action against parents.....all parents should have signed up to the codes of conduct when they signed for their offspring to join the club which will lay out what action may be taken against them.
 
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